Getting to know yourself isn’t as easy as it sounds. Society beats “rules” into our heads that we think we have to follow our entire lives. If we create the space to start thinking for ourselves we can start un-learning these rules and create our own in their place. What I’ve found most helpful on this journey isn’t a self help book or personality test – it’s the simple act of slowing down.

The way we live today is fast paced. We are always chasing more money, more stuff, and more busyness. What if instead we slowed down and chased less money, less stuff, and less busyness and in turn chased more time, more freedom, and more of ourselves? I know it sounds absurd, but if you give it a chance it will completely change your life.

By giving slowing down a chance you will find many unexpected benefits coming your way. It will allow you to take a breath and think about your actions before you take them. You will have the space to make intentional decisions. Best of all you will make the time to love others more.

If this is so beneficial, why hasn’t everyone done it? In my opinion, it’s fear. Fear of getting to know the real you and realizing how far away you are from that person is scary. We all put ourselves on a pedestal, but slowing down forces us to examine all sides of ourselves, even the not so glamorous ones. It means sitting with our thoughts and feelings and analyzing our emotions. We become aware of how finite time is and how important it is to spend it on our own terms.

Slowing down means asking hard questions and preparing ourselves that the answers may not be easy to swallow. Many of us have worked our whole lives to become what everyone else wanted us to be. Now we have to think about how to untangle this web and become who WE want to be. And the clock is ticking.

Slowing down is a fabulous personal development tool if you are ready to embrace the results. It’s way more effective than reading self help books or taking personality tests. It’s definitely not easy, yet the stakes are too high to ignore the importance of doing this work. Wouldn’t you rather live your life than someone else’s?

If you want to become the person you’ve always wanted to be, I encourage you to give slowing down a try. If you do, I’d love to hear about your experience. If you need help along the way, I’m always here.